When I told about myself in my first post, I did not mention something very importante about myself (my deepest apologies for that) – I am a yogi, very much into not only yoga exercises and stretches but also Vedic sciences, such as astrology and ayurveda. I do mantras and meditate. And I’m a vegetarian. A very fancy specific name would be lacto-vegetarian, which means that the only animal products I consume is dairy, but meat, fish and eggs is a no-no for me.
I went vegetarian about three years ago, and soon thereafter discovered yoga and all the yogi/vedic stuffz revolving around it and went a bit fanatic about it all. That’s how I roll in life – I’m either indifferent or fanatic, crazy and bananas. Before the yoga I did try the raw vegan thing (a lot of bananas), but that didn’t work out for me in the long term because I struggled getting enough calories in and lost about 5kg, which doesn’t sound much but for the fragile, delicate flower that I already was that was precious weight. I ended up being about 48kg, undercarbed, weak and confused about what to do with myself and my principles – I wanted all this to work so badly because not consuming corpses did made me feel a lot better, acne went away, menstrual cramps went bye bye, better sleep and everything was just better, except that I was quickly fading away. So, ayurvedic diet swooped in and saved the day, I quickly regained the missing kilos and it has worked very well for me ever since. Praise Shiva! 😀 just kidding.
Where am I going with all this yoga stuffz? At the yoga centre there are lot of different interesting classes/lectures given about various topics, and among them, of course, was a course about pregnancy and babies. Being a wannabe mum, I attended that and now have about 150 pages of notes in a Word document. I thought it would be interesting to share a topic from this course – suggestions about what a woman should and shouldn’t do before conceiving. They are mostly spiritual, coming from the Vedas and it’s pretty much impossible to meet all the requirements. However, they are pretty entertaining, at least to me. So, let’s get into it!
- No sleeping/napping during the day – daytime is meant for working and you’re only supposed to sleep at night time. Also, bedtime is 10PM, for at least 7 hours. If a future mummy sleeps during the day then the baby will be lazy and always sleepy. This does not apply when you’re already pregnant or new mummy, for as long as you’re breastfeeding.
- No crying – if a woman cries a lot, her future baby might have bad eyesight.
- No running – that destabilizes vata dosha (this is an ayurvedic thing, google it).
- No talking too much – pointless blabbing, gossiping, etc. not good, future baby will not be talkative, or the opposite – will talk too much. This is because by talking you lose a lot of energy.
- Must not be in loud places – such as nightclubs, for example. Future baby might have hearing problems.
- No physical overload – baby might have high vata dosha.
- No chemical medicines, no antibiotics.
- Clarity of thoughts – must try and see something positive in everything and every situation, even in bad things. If not positive, then at least with a sense of humour. Your positive and happy mind will attract a happy baby soul.
- Go out and be in nature and in sunlight a lot – nature cleanses your mind, spirit (isn’t that cheesy? :D). The sun gives you energy and heals you, but – sun is good in the morning until 11 or 12 o’clock, depending on climate zone and season, and then after 3 to 5 PM until sunrise. At noon the sunlight is damaging instead of healing.
- Purity in relationships – sort out relationships with family members, parents-in-law, etc. Peace with everyone so that you don’t have to address any negativity and stress out about relationshit issues when pregnant.
- Fix teeth.
- Fix back problems, posture – round shoulders mean negativity and pessimism, eyes are aimed downwards instead of looking straight forward or up. Also the chest compressed which means shallow breath, low oxygen levels in blood.
- Clean eating – obviously, no alcohol, smoking and other junk. Also preferably no coffee, no refined sugar and sweets, artificial sweeteners in diet, no fizzy drinks, etc. Before even starting conception it’s good to give your body a cleanse of some sort. Nothing too drastic though, otherwise the body will get shocked and all doshas will destabilised, which isn’t good and can even result in miscarriages, so careful with dieting please! Clean diet also applies to the partner, you want to have good quality egg AND seed.
That’s an incomplete list of dos and don’ts before conception. I will share similar suggestions about actual conception and pregnancy time in the future. Some of those are just crazy. 😀
I personally am a big sinner when it comes to these “rules”. I don’t sleep during the day, but it’s difficult for me to go to bed early, I sometimes manage 11PM bedtime, but usually it’s after midnight. I try not to stress about things too much and do cry sometimes, and always upon getting a period. I don’t think the no crying rule can be achieved by any normal woman and if you can do it – either praise and cudos to you about being so strong, calm and balanced, or good luck living without a heart! 😀 Next – no running and no loud places are the only rules I comply with easily. Talking is a problem for me. I might not talk pointlessly to people much, but one thing I wish I could have kept to myself is talking about ttc with friends and family. I do believe that it is best to not talk about your plans to anybody because by doing so you waste the energy that you could actually spend on implementing the plans. Also, everyone is expecting a result from you, which means pressure, and if you fail, it’s just so disappointing to tell them about it then. Yet, I just can’t keep my mouth shut! Even this blog is contrary to that principle. But oh well, whatever, I can’t be otherwise…
Forgive me Shiva and future baby, but clarity of mind and thoughts is also where I’ve sinned. I get angry sometimes, but who doesn’t? I did stop watching the ever so violent Game of Thrones so that I wouldn’t pollute my mind with all that addictive awfulness. But then I played a PS4 game “Far Cry 4”, where all you do is kill, kill, kill. And I got all the trophies in it. Well, I comfort myself with the thought that at least the game involved doing good karma to the good people and it takes place in fictional kind of India, there is a lot of yoga stuff in it, like temples and whatnot. Still, shame on me! 😀
Medicines rule is also a failure because last month I got cystitis and had to take antibiotics. Luckily I didn’t turn out to be pregnant that month. I still cried though. Nature rule – sorry, ain’t nobody got time for that! I will try to go on walks and be outside in the spring and summer, I promise! I have bad posture too, and my back is just crackalicious. My yoga exercising motivation comes and goes and it goes more than comes. I am so lazy…
I do try to eat clean, with the occasional cake or other sweets. Except coffee is my weakness – recently I’ve managed to not drink any coffee at all for a month. I asked my partner to hide the coffee so I wouldn’t get tempted. Otherwise I have absolutely no willpower whatsoever. Ha ha!
Nobody’s so perfect that they can meet all these requirements, so I just try to do my best but don’t put too much pressure on my self, no stress. It is what it is. 🙂 The first and most important rule is to love yourself as you are, love life and love your partner. Everything else is just suggestions. 🙂